Everybody wants to play dirty when a relationship go sour. When one partner betray the trust, jilt the other or go into extramarital affairs.
What makes the difference?
1. Individual outlooks
2. Individual philosophy
3. Perceptions
4. Personal values
5. Self esteem.
If your outlook is expansive you wouldn’t fight on that which could end you in jail.
Destroy your family story.
Dent the future of your children
Take you to hell fire.
There’s more to lose fighting than keeping cool. Keeping cool imbued within you spiritual power and stability. If you have personal respect you will never fight dirty.
Do you know the double title the Bible gave you?
A royal priesthood
Prayerfully tell yourself, I’ll comport myself with the highest respect in marriage… I’ll not fight dirty no matter what.
Instead of fighting, this is a hard-line decision to carry out: I’ll be a covering angel in my marriage.
Below is the real life story that spur this message:
THE REAL LIFE STORY
This story was told by the victim to somebody close to me: It happened that one day the woman went out like every other day. Ahead of her she saw crowds gathering and as she moved closer they pointed to her that: That’s the wife coming.
Her heart skipped. Within seconds she cast her glance closely only to see her husband naked.
She was confused. Ha!
What should she do?
Though very shameful sight was before her.
To reach a decision was not hard for her due to her background and depth. She went swiftly to kneel down to the neighborhood elders pleading on his behalf. He was caught red handed with a neighbours wife. So the reason he was stripped naked.
Immediately as she appeased them they began to amend. Her action was surprising and unexpected. If she could forgive so easily why wouldn’t they? She paid unusual price, and the tide changed for her favour.
Her naked was handed over to her without further molestation. She removed her wrapper and used it to cover the husband’s nakedness. She was left with a skirt.
She took him by the hand and led him lovingly back home. Many of you are grumbling that you cannot do that?
Here is her harvest after that day:
The man became humbled and homely since his youthful days until old age.
The man wouldn’t do anything without the wife’s approval.
The man handed over all of his finances to her.
The man was never caught in any adulterous mess ever.
*The man literally handed over his life to his wife who turned to his covering angel.
Marriage isn’t made for the good time alone.
*The truth is: marriage is intended specially as a cover for days of troubles. It’s not just about merry and jamboree.
Lack of this truth is why many aren’t enjoying marriage.
It’s the level of covering you grant your spouse that will elicit awe and respect.
Luke 6:36 KJV
Be ye therefore merciful, as your Father also is merciful.
Recently a famous actor WILL SMITH had his wife JADA caught in adultery.
He didn’t kill her, he didn’t divorce her. He went ahead and reconcile with her and they moved on.
That’s covering…
Do you know what? theirs is an international exposure of dirty linen yet they overcame that phase in their relationship.
Why can’t you?
A lesson for us I think
Life is so short, to keep the fight and struggles. It’s the devil’s intention to use such thing to keep you down and weigh you out throughout life.
Move on… Don’t be a killer spouse because of any of such things.
Many a times, when you become a cover for your spouse, you’re actually dignifying yourself and covering your own person.
It brings honour to you.
It shows that you’re a strong and dependable person.
Think on these things.
And may you receive wisdom, resilience and capacity to manage family crisis in Jesus name.
The capacity to manage family challenges is the pathway to meaningful relationship.
Talking from experience
