Introduction
When we were young we have puzzles that we play. We have tiles we have to arrange. One that comes to memory is arranging into shape the image of a beautiful cock. No tile is complete without the other. Until the entire cock align you cannot have a perfect puzzle solved.
The same thing happens in marriage, the husband and the wife are bits of dual puzzle. It takes one to complete the other. Once you’re married don’t be tempted to be the dominant one. No matter how impressive your contribution is to the home, you’re not complete without your spouse. Soon or later you will know. Always find a means (by all means) to engage your spouse in the growth of the home and marriage.
You don’t compete, you complement.
There’s no reason for showmanship.
You don’t owe the neighbours any iota of proof of being the main person. You owe your spouse the responsibilities of filling the gap in the puzzle. Imperatively, no one is complete and no one is perfect on his own.
Many times, what you complain of in your spouse is the very gap you’re created to fill.
When you know this, you become the perfect match.
When God says: It’s not good for the man to be alone. He meant every word; man without the woman isn’t complete and woman without the man isn’t complete.
1 Corinthians 11:11-12 KJV
Nevertheless neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord. [12] For as the woman is of the man, even so is the man also by the woman; but all things of God.
We are not complete without the other. I want you to know this if you are married
This therefore calls for appreciation of the gift of God – your spouse.
I have come to know that life often have moment to teach the non appreciative spouse. Whatever good or benevolence from your spouse, it is by his mercy.
Don’t look down on the gift of a spouse. Many people want what you have.
Whatever we appreciate, we take good care of, and whatever we care for improves.
The secret of a happy home is that you appreciate your spouse. What you give comes back to you one way or the other.
The beginning of troubled marriage is to insist on changing the deficiency of your spouse.
The beginning of a glorious marriage is to fill the deficiency up.
In another word make up the deficient part of the puzzle. When you do this, no one will see the schism (crack). Through this you’re likely going to win your spouse to you and convert the weakness into strength.
Let’s see some powerful admonition of Peter to husbands and wives
Talking to women and applicable to men:
1 Peter 3:1-2 KJV
Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; [2] While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.
Through our lifestyles we can win a hardened or weak spouse
Finally, a simple test of our salvation
For women:
1 Peter 3:5 KJV
For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands:
The sign of a woman’s salvation is tested by her level of submission and humility not how much Bible she can quote
For men:
1 Peter 3:7 KJV
Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
The sign of a man’s salvation is tested by the depth by which he can tolerate the weaknesses of the wife. Knowing that he’s the more physically endowed.
His ability not to abuse his strength and authority tests his salvation.
When couples pass this test, they are on the way of leading a glorious home
Such a couple becomes the perfect match
May God help us to learn the wisdom by which we can become complementary partners and as perfect match in our marriages in Jesus name.
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