THE DANGER OF PREMARITAL SEX
Simply defined, premarital sex is sex before marriage.
There’s a deception of the devil hidden within many hearts… They believe everyone secretly practices premarital sex.
With this mindset, resistance and will of an individual is crumbled at the slightest sexual exposure.
The good news is: not everybody is engaged in premarital sex.
I have come to find out that no matter how corrupt and immoral a society tends to certain individual will always stand tall to say NO to premarital sex.
God’s goodness is extended and unending in that he can give you a new name peradventure you have fumbled in time past.
This is a new day, put away the destructive power of premarital sex.
The end of a thing is better than the beginning… Make your last lap into marriage clean, pure and holy.
Sex sin has a way of belittling one no matter the momentary enjoyment. Premarital sex has unspoken dent on individual’s character.
The Bible says it is a sin we commit against ourselves. What it means is that sex sin directly harm the one involved.
Other sins are against others… Stealing, killing, etc. But sex sin is against the one who commits it.
Let us see instances both in the Bible and real life.
Example
THE CASANOVA
A lady on campus met a guy who used to come visiting. She doesn’t know his house or people. Yet the two believed they loved each other.
Then they began to have sex and the unexpected happened. She became pregnant.
She was confident of the touted love between them. She came to the guy to tell him she was pregnant for him.
The guy smiled. The Casanova himself: How are you sure I’m responsible? Check on your other boyfriend. More so, you are not a virgin when I met you.
She cried home. Told her parents who were themselves disappointed.
The parents wept. A dashed hope from a child sent to school.
They took her to his parents. The story remained the same. Her parents were forced to take responsibility for her care, antenatal, delivery and so on.
She gave birth. The child looked like the guy.
Her lover didn’t show up even for the naming.
Her mounting shame was unbearable.
His mom came. She came bare handed. A disgustful attitude without sense of responsibility.
The lady on the premise of premarital sex has started her life journey on a bad leg.
Many young girl will see this as super story.
I have many ladies with similar experience.
Premarital sex makes one cheap. Its outcome is scary when caught in its bad odious water.
Caveat Emptor… Sex buyer beware
Lessons:
1. Before sex, there should be reasonable commitment. The best commitment is marriage. Without this man can change fast
2. Before sex you have to know a man or woman very well. Can you tolerate his or her attitude in case there’s pregnancy?
If he has a good attitude, he should be able to wait until marriage before sex.
3. Beyond sex. Ask yourself: can you live with him or her.
4. Beyond sex. Know the kind of family a person comes from.
Some families are toxic. Marriage is beyond a man and a woman. It involves a larger family and the society.
5. Always bear in mind that the outcome of the sex affects many people… It’s beyond the two of you.
Think of the anguish and sorrow of disappointed parents.
Think of education or business that has to stop.
Think of the sorrow of being the only one struggling to raise the child… For how long?
This is the society we are in.
Please beware
Ponder upon this before the next invitation for sex.
The reality is abounding and this realities don’t lie
How can you overcome the flood of the urge for sex?
- Prayer
- Discipline… Being at the right place that’s not exposed for sex
- The word of God in you is a guide
Psalm 119:9-11 KJV
Wherewithal shall a young man cleanse his way? by taking heed thereto according to thy word. [10] With my whole heart have I sought thee: O let me not wander from thy commandments. [11] Thy word have I hid in mine heart, that I might not sin against thee.
