Foxes are small animals that are not easily handled or tamed.
Two lovers who had undying love for each others decided to use fox figuratively to counsel generations of people to come about relationship. The admonition goes like this: Do not wait for the full grown foxes, remove them far away when they are little. Little foxes can be ward off easily than full grown.
In a simple language for those of us who understands farming, remove the little twigs (stems) don’t wait until it becomes a timber
Song of Solomon 2:15 KJV
Take us the foxes, the little foxes, that spoil the vines: for our vines have tender grapes.
Hey, you got it, the story is from the Bible. They were two unusual lovers that the wealth of Solomon the richest man couldn’t buy over.
True love can never be bought with money. Love that money buys will be at the mercy of money, when anything challenge the flowing stream of money the love develop headache.
*The little foxes
Solomon knew that love as strong as it is, is sustained by a tender heart.
Song of Solomon 2:15 KJV
Take us the foxes, the little foxes, that spoil the vines: for our vines have tender grapes.
Love is tender, avoid the foxes of non-regenerated life; uncultured life can trample it down.
Remember how your spouse celebrated you some years back? You knew along the line how you took him/her for granted.
You said it doesn’t matter
You come back home late
You begin to get too close to the opposite sex out there than your spouse.
You cook at your convenience
He/she sees no form of sacrifice from your own end
You nag
Etc, Little foxes, then the tender love begins to be broken. Many times, what breaks home are more prevailing small matters. Some couples offend each other in the supposed BIG issues yet come over it.
Why? The small issues have been taken care of earlier. I’m not saying spouse should go out for extramarital affairs… Just for explanations sake:
We have many couples who caught their other half in adultery and still mend and continue.
Being close to nature, it’s one good teacher: Dripping rain does more harm to health than a heavy downpour. You were going to the farm and for more than 2hours the rain drench you. Though little but its continual drippings lead to much cold.
Then another rain was heavy but 15minutes.
You’ll rather be in the heavy one for 15minutes and get on with your life. Some wives are very good but one thing, they can nag, complain and murmur nonstop.
So little fault, but if not well managed can weary the man. He will come around with one stupid excuse and he is gone.
In the same way, a man may be contemptuous of the wife. She may bear it to a point then she grow weary of the contempt. Then sometimes you wonder why such a good woman packed out of the home.
Why many marriages crash isn’t because of big fault, but because of small issues which hang around them for a long time… Not dealt with.
Little foxes
Men are more at fault here. Because they felt they are the head of the home, they come into marriage refusing to improve their character through a process of New Birth and rebirth of character.
They believe the woman will take them just anyhow. Unfortunately, women too know how to treat men’s fvck up.
This is not the will of God. But we all need to brace up and deal with our little vices.
Here are some common vices:
Uncontrollably anger and raging fit.
Don’t say that’s how you were born. That’s a bad inheritance.
Somebody inherited billions of dollars, somebody inherited a throne but you brag about inheriting anger.
Somebody is angry… Today that anger must die by fire and by force in Jesus name. I refuse to inherit bad thing. When the anger is mounting, master it… Move away from what’s causing you to be angry
Here is a sweet secret if only you can do it:
When you are angry, tell your spouse you’re angry. Then surprise him or her by doing the opposite.
Then you’ll begin to earn his or her respect.
I say it boldly by the grace of God.
I earned my respect from my wife, I didn’t buy it with money or lord it over her. Seriously I laugh at the childishness of some men: they are proving to their wives who the head of the family is.
That’s when you lose it. You don’t flex muscle with your wife.
Maturity is what makes a man to be MAN
If you’re a man tell yourself: I can take it.
The man isn’t man that fall flat easily by every nuance of the wife.
Let’s face the truth: How easy is it to live and enjoy the company of an incessantly angry person? This is why your husband/wife is avoiding home.
Personally, I don’t know why people find it difficult to take their eyes away from offences?
Why I don’t get angry easily isn’t because of my wife but because of ME.
I have noticed that when I’m angry I don’t enjoy the world around me. When I’m angry I begin to have funny rise in temperature. When I’m angry I go into isolation. So I learn not to be angry because I choose to enjoy my life and live healthier.
If somebody do this simple task High Blood Pressure and certain ailments will disappear from you.
Anger seem small like the tiny fox but it can ruin the marital bliss or your home.
Other little foxes
Another is arrogance
I see it as being foolish to be proud to your spouse. Of all people you shouldn’t be proud to your wife. Be you a professor emeritus and your wife be a wood seller. She’s your mate once you’re entangled as husband and wife. Why the boast against your mate?
You get back home from your exalted office… The president… You go to bed beside that beautiful woman, child of nobody. Next thing, you remove your clothes, dangled your long instrument to her. Both nakedly. You go to high heaven, just with this fine babe daughter of nobody. After the romantic affair. You lie flat snoring beside her.
Next morning, back into your suit. Then you’re now somebody bigger than her… President. Baseless arrogance, nothing more.
In marriage, if you cannot come equally with your spouse, you have no business being married.
No matter where you work woman, the day you begin to exalt yourself against your spouse then you begin to have heat of marriage. The discussion here isn’t about authority but our humanity at home. Treat him or her as you would do to yourself. When you drop arrogance you will begin to have better marital outlook.
Tell yourself, I’m not better than my spouse. We are joint heir in Christ. Tell yourself again: Pomposity is foolishness
2 Corinthians 10:12 KJV
For we dare not make ourselves of the number, or compare ourselves with some that commend themselves: but they measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves among themselves, are not wise.
Being dirty
Somebody is from a pristine environment like a royal home. Don’t drag him or her into a messy world of dirt.
Understand to match up in that area..
Little foxes
Little foxes
Fashion taste or dress code
Some spouses have taste for good dressing, it enhances their self esteem. When married to such, don’t say it doesn’t matter.
Other foxes could be:
1. Poor eating habit… Eating making sound with your mouth.
2. Use of cutlery the wrong way
3. Poor sleeping habit
4. Snoring
5. Lack of good communication
6. Lack of appreciation
7. Lack of care
8. Poor sex life
Etc.
Most spouses understand with our weakness when we are committed doing our best to better ourselves. Nothing put a spouse off like a partner who want to remain as he or she was when he or she newly got married.
We are in the technological age: Everything is improving at the speed of light… Even sex life😄😁😁
Thank you everyone of you that hailed me, I hail you back. To every prayer to me, I say AMEN.
GOD BLESS EVERY HOME…
ILE WA KONI DARU O LORUKO JESU
I have somebody who will secretly come and ask me, what’s the meaning of:
Ile wa koni daru… Simply means… Our marriages will not collapse in Jesus name
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