Those who reach the milestone of 50 years in marriage get there deliberately.
Those who get to the 50 years milestone have the vision and they see it afar and they embrace it.
Nothing good comes without visualization. What you do not see you cannot have.
Even Moses, has to be at Mount Pisgah to behold the glory of the Promised Land.
Abraham was taken out to see and count the sky.
Those who’s relationship botched along the way got to the point they do not see themselves together any longer.
It’s not often the difficulty poised by marriages that tear it apart but poor visualization.
Your excuse is valid. It takes grace to keep going in that relationship. But never forget, somebody had it worse yet was able to turn the bad experience to a sweet one.
It’s what you see that keep you in your relationship not what you experience.
What leads to broken homes in some quarters is just a child’s play to another.
The promise doesn’t remove the challenges and crisis…
The promise only gives you reason to ensure.
From Abraham’s experience, it would seem that those with the promise often had hell loosed on their way.
There’s nothing anyone faces that’s not common among the mortal…
The difference is perception, perspectives and how we handle the itches of our marriages.
Abraham mastered his pains until the promise was delivered.
Many of you never made mistake marrying your spouse. It’s the trouble that’s dampening your heart’s vision.
Asking God about the marriage: It remains *YES*
I told somebody about Adam this week of my utmost respect to him.
Do you know God gave him Eve? Yet they have their own share of trouble.
That’s our prototype.
Even though your marriage is made from heaven, it will have it’s own shares of trouble.
The most respectable attitude of Adam: in spite of the troubles encountered losing their home in Garden of Eden, the Bible recorded that Adam took with him his wife.
Real men and women of God don’t give up easily on their marriage… Except where there’s threat to life.
Back to our discussion: having a vision of the future helps you to keep your relationship.
*The vision of the future helps you appropriate the circumstances around you – looking into the future helps you to know that certain things don’t matter anymore*
Repeating:
Many things wouldn’t matter in 50years time… So don’t take life too serious anymore
Let me give you examples:
1. You felt he or she has no stable job? In 50 years time, none of you will have a job… Only love.
So don’t destroy your made in heaven relationship because of job.
2. A more beautiful/accomplished dude or lady out there?
When you age, it will look like silly play of toddlers.
3. You find a more cultured and well behaved person to replace your spouse?
Remember that time will reveal that every human being including me has a dark side.
Thank God for what you have now.
4. You want to be married to just your kids?
In 50 years they will be gone.
5. In 50 years time, adding that to your age, you’ll have eternity in view.
You’ll not want to lose heaven on account of a bursted marriage.
6. Your partner committed adultery?
As painful as it may be, you cannot vouch for the other person out there you’re contemplating as replacement.
Never do anything in haste. Think through.
In 50 years time will it really matter? I mean those reasons you’re finding it difficult to enjoy your marriage or mend?
Think on these things. God bless you.
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