DEADLY MARRIAGE CONTRACT
Yoruba adage says: Amukun, eru e wo.
Amukun replied: Oke lenwo ewo isale
Eni to powe ni ile ana loma tunmo e.
The meaning of the adage:
Cripple man, your load isn’t balance on your head.
Cripple man reply: Don’t look up to where the load is, look down at my wobbled feet.
The foundation is important in everything pertaining to life. The Bible says: If the foundation be destroyed what can the righteous do?
Every other day we see across the nations many love relationship go sour. It’s not the fault of the student as much as it is that of the teachers and the mentors. The values we teach in love and marriage seminars today give birth to the weak homes we have now.
In order to look acceptable the teacher shares what is pleasing in the relationship seminars.
They share milks in order to raise raving fans…
It’s time we share what’s important and relevant for the future of your love.
Why have a relationship made in heaven but lasts for couples of years? These days we wonder why many killings, murders, destruction, poisoning, etc in marriages.
What could lead a woman who was once “madly” in love to kill the husband?
What could make a man in love use knife to butcher the wife and later poisoned himself?
The number 1 reason is due to unrealistic expectations. Nobody told them the truth that marriage isn’t for perfect people but imperfect mates seeking for perfection. The deadly love contract is premised on unrealistic expectations.
When you get to the point where you cannot tolerate your spouse misdeed… The relationship is unhealthy. You should learn to overlook or forgive before you’re offended else you cannot enjoy the institution called marriage.
You prepare your mind to accept your spouse’s humanity, but at the same time working vigorously to better him or her.
When you fall in love, you’re in love with an imperfect mate. This understanding will not pose a surprise on you and you’ll not be in a state of denial when the unexpected happens.
Recently, a lady used knives to cut off the husband’s manhood. She will end up in life imprisonment.
Does it worth all this sweat?
Many proponents will ask her to divorce the husband. After divorcing him she will realize that the next guy having another kind of disabled character.
Many times, the obvious flaw of our spouse when well managed becomes the avenue to gain trust and loyalty.
God does not rejoice in iniquity, but he instituted MERCY seat on the altar because he knew humanity will flounder and fail at some points. Even Adam and Eve who were specially made fell… God was ready to forgive them.
How much more your spouse who you did not create? Expect him or her to fail once in a while then mend fence and move on.
Surprisingly, couples who give room for offences get better. Those who operate a no rebuttal to sin or failings of their spouses often live in perpetual hypocrisy. Playing hide and seek all their lives.
It’s rampant this day to hear statements such as: I will not forgive him or her if he or she does this or that.
I’m filing for divorce if he or she does this.
When you have a clause on your marriage, you are unknowingly signing up for a marriage that would be shipwrecked sooner or later.
See through your marriage in season and out of season.
The God of the mountain is also the God of the valley; he will see you through all the seasons in Jesus name. All things work for your good and the good of your marriage.
That error of your spouse may become the cementing factor of the relationship. Don’t be too quick to throw the baby and the bath away.
Stay in, stay through and stay thorough. Expect the good, the bad and the ugly situation. Then believe in the grace to handle them all.
It is childishness and lack of maturity that makes you carry knife to deal with a partner. Very barbaric, primitive and sickness of the mind! Always retain your sanity in whatever situation you find yourself in in a marriage…
Always remember that you’re married to a human being and not an angel l. Even angels were once tempted along with Lucifer.
Accommodate the erring partner and move forward… Don’t be stuck and don’t be destroyed.
Don’t wreck your life or that of your spouse because you’re offended. And in many situation not even divorce or separation is necessary to settle scores.
Stay in that relationship and win
May God help us in our respective homes to hold on and win through in Jesus name. Don’t run a deadly love affairs… Be moderate in your expectation…
Be ready to forgive….
Know that your spouse isn’t perfect, yet helping each other to get perfect.
God bless you and thank you for your time.
God bless you once again.
I want your home to be the best…
What makes it the best isn’t because you’re going to marry a faultless and impeccable partner.
What makes a relationship the best is based on your choice to make it so.
Do you agree with this:
A fertile land without cultivation will yield thorns and weeds. In the same way, you can get married to a good and godly spouse and still end up in divorce, except you make up your mind to tend the garden of that relationship.
Nothing works by itself in life. Somebody must be committed to make it work. As you prepare to be married someday, you need to build the commitment now.
You need to make up your mind to make it work. Marriage that works… Starts with determination years before the marriage is contracted.
You don’t wait for crisis before you seek for the fire brigade route. Every relationship and marriage would go through its crisis moment.
What keeps it going is the determination and foundation upon which it is built. Without a godly foundation of persistence, consistence, determination no relationship can stand the crisis hours.
Reading your Bible you’ll realize in the parable of the two builders – the wise and foolish builders.
None of them was spare the stormy day.
No matter how good you’re good in making your choice the hour of trial will come.
Adam who had his wife factory made had marital challenges, how much more you and me.
Why do I have to talk this way?
I’m afraid of the Indomie generation who upon the slightest provocation go for divorce and others on extreme terms use knives to pull out their spouses intestines.
This indomie generations are weak and helplessly lazy in mind to turn a rough relationship into the best of it. Are you an indomie generation or godly generation?
Tell yourself, no matter what, I’ll make my marriage work.
If God sees this determination as being true for you, he will see to it that he gets you a spouse by his wisdom.
Some of us grew up by habit to throw away things that are not working. This we carry into our marriages. If you’re going to have a pleasant marriage in life you must learn to hold on and insist on turning things around.
Marriage is work
So when you get married you’re signing up for WORK
Love is responsibility
When you fail to see it as such, you’ll be miserable when duty calls.
When you work out your marriage then you have bliss.
Without work, the bliss after the wedding will be short lived. Think on these things….God bless you real good.
It’s better you’re the best spouse than marrying the best spouse…. It is more blessed to give than to receive.
The husbandman is the first partaker.
You first taste of your goodly nature.
