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Category: LOVE & RELATIONSHIP

  • TRUE LOVE ISN’T BY LUCK BUT BY CULTIVATION

    TRUE LOVE ISN’T BY LUCK BUT BY CULTIVATION

    This is a basic law that you need to know or understand if you want to enjoy your relationship.

    Nothing is ready made in life; not even a blissful relationship. Many young people go out with the illusion of finding a spouse in an exact form. This has led to frustration of many and has stolen joy and peace from many. This is why many individuals have not found somebody to marry.

    Many of us go with the mindset off finding God’s will in from the blues.

    Hoping that as you step out God will just point to you: that is your spouse. Then as the obedient child you go to the person and ask him or her for a relationship. Suddenly, you are at the altar and married.

    Even when God shows you who to marry you have to take the time to cultivate the relationship.

    You don’t go with arrogance and such pomposity that you are the special child of God.

    Even when God speaks to you directly from heaven you have to nurture the relationship into a healthy form that will yield bliss and honey; I mean honey in the moon😀

    *Instance of the Gospel

    Even though God called his servants and ministers into the ministry yet such persons have to go nurture the people, admonish and support those they are sent to before they can truly convert the world to Christ.

    Nothing in life works until we work on it.

    *Don’t be in the habit of trampling down relationships

    Meaning of us have no viable relationships. We have no friends or acquaintances. We go solo in life and we believe somebody will break through the wall we have created around ourselves and come and tell us I love you. It will be very difficult.

    The Bible says he that must be have friends must show himself friendly.

    In the year 2022 be ready to build friendship and relationship.

    In the same wise I am not saying you should go out and cultivate relationship with every Dick and Harry. NO. What I’m saying is that you should have an open mind and open heart towards the nudging of the Holy Spirit.

    Usually when the Holy Spirit has somebody as your spouse. The person will not come the first time as your expected wife or husband. This is why you have to be keen in your cultivation of friendship.

    *A case study

    When I met my wife I met her in the least expected place.

    I have many friends in church I even have eyes on one of them as somebody I would love to marry or settle down with.

    Then a program was holding which brought the two of us together. It was a two weeks program. When we met I didn’t have anything as such as relationship in mind. She was just a lady and an acquaintance for the next two weeks.

    But I was opened to friendship. We talked and chatted on many issues. Something led to the other, today we are married as husband and wife. If there’s somebody that could have missed it, it is me. I rarely have friends but one thing I don’t do is: I don’t dismiss people from my life. Even though I don’t go after people when people come around me I entertain, accommodate and build relationship with them.

    This is why as an unmarried person do not have an idol. Because sometime God will bring somebody into your life who will become your spouse.

    When you learn to cultivate relationship, it will become very easy to find your spouse, because when that person come it will be very easy for you to identify the person. When the person comes, there will be unusual flow of communication and exchanges between you.

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    Marry your friend… Even though you will meet the person you will marry on a certain day, build that relationship in a way that the person becomes your friend not a stranger before you say I do.

    Do you know, like your regular planting you have to sow into friendship before you can harvest from it?

     

    *It is wrong

    It is wrong to go into 2022 with the mentality of the lottery player who wants to win the jackpot with little input.

    Don’t go in to 2022 expecting that your lover will call from the blue without an iota of sacrifice concession or give and take.

    Do you know that your anticipated spouse could be that neighbour you look down on daily? Because we never took the time to study the person or have time out we never knew that within that person is the gold you have been seeking for.

    In 2022 do not advertise your need for a spouse. Instead sow your seeds beside all Waters.

    Give of your talents, smile, treasure, love, money and care and it will boomerang with the gift of a soulmate – I mean your life partner. Stop living for just you and your needs alone, God will not just give you a spouse because you need it but because it is necessary to help you reach out further to the world.

    God often supply our need beyond our wildest imagination.

    Come to think of it: why do some people have so many people around them seeking for their hands in marriage while others have none? Is it just an element of luck. I don’t think so. Go out there.

    The job seekers that get the best jobs do so usually by specially positioning them themselves for the big catch. Think on this.

    God bless you.

     

    We will continue later by God’s grace.

  • BEFORE YOU SAY YOU’RE MARRIED

    WARNING TO OUR YOUTHS

    BEFORE YOU SAY YOU’RE MARRIED

    Don’t make yourself so cheap by rushing into a relationship without taking time to do the needful.

    Rushing to marry without following the laid down procedure in your clime often poise some snare. Do the things you need to do and as much as it lied with you, win all necessary approval – of God and man.

    I know God in his usual way is talking to somebody today. When you choose to do things right he will help you discover the pitfalls before you.

    Do not in your life go after a man in the name of blinded love without your parent’s consent and of people who hold you in high esteem.

    When they antagonize your decision take time to find out. Patience will reveal who is right. Sometimes by patience you come to see what they’re saying or they seeing through yours.

    Never say that your parents don’t matter. No matter how much love somebody professes to you. Remember that your parents too love you and wants the best for you.

    A gentle persuasive love of parents is better than a tempestuous love without substance. I hope our unmarried in the house will learn. This is why I’m writing you this morning.

    What use is being showered with much love in courtship but later to realize that you’re married to a monster.

    As I always say: Marriage is beyond the two of you. It is an institution. An institution entails many people. Each marriage is affiliated to more than a hundred people.

    Selfish people build their love around just the two of them. Selfish love is a house on a sand, it shatters when the storm of marriage comes. Storms will come, your foundation will determines whether it will stand.

    What kind of home will a man who eloped with a lady build? By that action it shows two weak people who can not win through constructive propositions. Such home rarely last or have the honey of marriage.

    He told you, get pregnant so that your parents will release you to him. You too want to tow that path. I pity you. Before you do that I’m called to warn you. It is a hard line to tow.

    In my life, I’ve seen many lives especially of women destroyed because of such. You make yourself cheap from the beginning. By jettisoning the counsel of wisdom the man become the god in your life. Man, when elevated to the status of a god is tyrannical.

    Don’t be miserable the rest of your life, follow the needed process through – it starts with seeking the Lord and marrying a God fearing man.

    It’s better to be unmarried than to marry wrongly.

    Lastly, don’t be in a haste to be married. Do all the needful your parents, culture, society and government approve as foundation for marriage. Doing the needful here doesn’t mean subscribing to sinful rites around you please.

    Building a sustained home is the business of many, don’t live in isolation at your peril.

    A lesson:

    Yesterday I read of a lady whose body was dismembered by two young men. She came from Lagos to check on probably one of the guys. If the love was played out in the open she would be alive today.

    Another one was raped and killed few years ago leaving her parents in agony because of a clandestine relationship played out in the dark room.

    We have so many gory stories of love in the gutter. If it is healthy, play your game of love in the open.

    If you have manner, well brought up and especially being a child of God you’ll do things approved by God and men. Light doesn’t seek means to hide.

    Jesus, our Lord grew in favour before God and man. A thriving relationship must grow in favour before God and man.

    A word is enough for the wise.

    *WALE ADEWUMI*

  • A UNIVERSAL CODE FOR A QUALITY LIFE

    A UNIVERSAL CODE FOR A QUALITY LIFE

    We are often too quick to think of money when we talk about a quality life. Money in the real sense is a derivative of a good life, pursuit, engagement, or contemplation.

    I will make my presentation clearer bye using 3 incidents today.

    1. When I woke up this morning I saw my wife beside me. The first thought that came through my mind was how do I make her life a quality one? Then I wasn’t thinking of money or gifts. We have many houses with large money but the inhabitants have made it a hell of a place.

    A quality life is way beyond money. Nonetheless, money is an essential instrument in our world.

    This thought shaped the way I behaved to her throughout the day. I made up my mind to act in such a way not because of what she did or what she didn’t do but based on higher value.

    When I looked back I realise that on perennial basis I have a good home to come back to everyday.

    When you have the mind to be a blessing to others it will come back to you.

    Some of us may complain that you are married to a beast. Whatever, when you begin to take care of a dog or a lion in a certain way the beast in it becomes quietened.

    2. By extension I made up my mind to make people that come around me today to be happy.

    Not too long after somebody called me from a radio station. He told me the expected guest wasn’t coming. I could as well decide to play a big man. I told him I will be coming this erupted joy within him and he prayed for me.

    I stopped the work I intend doing on my laptop. At that instance I received inspiration towards an issue I was trying to solve since few days earlier in my own life.

    The right kind of inspiration is more than money. Inspiration took Joseph from the prison to the palace.

    By attending to other people’s issue God also was there solving my own problem.

    After the radio program the presenter also prayed for me because I filled in the gap.

    When you are out there solving other people’s problem your own problem also will receive a divine touch.

    Many times we expect those people we help to also come around to help us. It doesn’t always come out right like that, when you stand out as a blessing to the world God himself will seek for avenues to divinely bless you… Not really the person you stand-in for.

    Jesus said give and it shall be given unto you good measure pressed down shaken together and running over shall men give unto you.

    The universal code of a quality life is to be there for others. This has nothing to do with what others do or don’t do to you.

    3. Earlier I presented a story of a teacher with his students. He gave each a balloon and they all wrote their names on their balloons.

    They all threw the balloon to the front of the class. Then he asked them all to look for their respective balloon with their names on it. They scrambled and struggled. It was a difficult task. Then he asked them to work together as one to help each other find their balloons. It became fun and easier task. Within minutes all of them had their balloon.

    When you begin to help others, life will become fun even when you are labouring. When you choose to help others to find purpose, to realise their goals, and to succeed, your own success will come faster.

    Show mercy so that you too may receive mercy. According to the seed you sow you will reap.

    Do you want a buoyant life? Cease from struggling alone. Work with others, partner with them, help them solve their problems and you will realise within a short while that those things you want in life will come to you faster.

    The more approved law of life is being there for others in their time of need by showing others the way to go, blessing the helpless and strengthening the weak knees.

    Remember, the good Samaritan wasn’t highly religious like the chief priest and the levites yet he was more approved by Jesus Christ.

    You too can start a new life today by making the world a heaven for others.

    God bless you.

  • DO I MARRY THE HARLOT?

    The presentation is a figure, I’m not asking you to marry a Harlot of the real world.

    *RELATIONSHIP SEMINAR

    The Harlot in our allegory is the obnoxious fellow hanging around your world who you would not give a thought of for marriage.

    Like the physical Harlot in your neighborhood, he or she is obsessed with you. But he or she has some undesirable quality.

    You would rather have the Harlot far from you.

    You can never imagine him or her becoming your spouse.

    Pause and think:

    Could there be possibilities of you marrying the Harlot?

    Would you throw the water and the baby away?

    *Who Do I Marry, The Harlot or the Saint?*

    Introduction:

    The Saint is the perfect form of who you would want as a spouse in your journey of life.

    This has been the person you’ve given your total life, to court and marry.

    He or she comes into your dreamworld where you share fantasies as you travel round your imaginary world.

    If only you are able to get him or her, your trouble would be over and it will be a world of bliss forever.

    Where is the Saint?

    *In our search for a marriage partner we search for the Saint but lo the Harlot show up…*

    The use of Harlot in the Bible especially of Israel and Judah as an allegory signifies the lost one… Out of grace and cover of God.

    Let us go into the principles of the gospel, to lead us to getting a marriage partner

    1. All have sinned and are short of the glory.

    God knew no one is qualified by merit.

    2. Yet he came to seek for the lost one and to make them children of God. This was why Jesus came

    3. Then through Christ the sinner becomes the Saint.
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    You may realize you’re richer, more godly, more handsome or beautiful, more educated or the likes.

    True love will fill up the space just the same way Christ came for the sinner.

    The story of the gospel is the perfect illustration of true love relationship that works

    *You will not likely meet the exact type of person you want to marry. To insist is the beginning of frustration.*

    *When God wants a relationship, he didn’t stop with the angels, he moved on to the earth to seek for man – the fallen man.*

    *When you too want to start a relationship, don’t marry the angel, marry somebody with a flaw*

    When you marry somebody who looked like an angel you’re buying into lies.

    To understand that everyone has flaw is the beginning of finding a spouse early… And to know is the foundation to enduring relationship and marriage

    Why many people stay so loooooong before getting a marriage partner is due to the misconception of a Mr Right or a Miss Right somewhere.

    The man in shiny brass armour and the lady angel who cannot hurt a fly is often an illusion.

    As I’ve said times without number, you don’t daydream into marriage.

    You become a practical person with your heart and brain.

    The archbishop of Canterbury and your dear writer here has a flaw or deficiency. Yet we are married and our spouse manage us😀

    Stop dreaming and come back to reality. We are in the world of man where we have many flaws and deficiency in all… All men have flaws but for grace.

    Marriage is a risk, a worthy risk but for the prepared.

    If you’re not prepared for the risk you cannot have the shock absorber to handle the moment of challenges.

    Your heart is the seat of emotion, if that’s all you engage before and after finding a spouse you will have problems sooner or later.

    People who engage only their emotions live in a world of denial of facts.

    Use your brain also, know you’re not in heaven, accept that the person you’re marrying has a deficiency. Then make up your mind to manage the situation and outcome.

    Isaac and Rebecca had a heavenly backed relationship yet they have somewhat a divided home.

    Why am I saying all this?

    Just one reason:

    No matter how careful you’re, you are going to marry a human and along comes surprises, flaws, deficiencies and inabilities.

    Let us look @ Adam and Eve…

    Even God, God Almighty gave Adam a wife, yet the relationship fumbled and wobbled. Yet Adam didn’t give up.

    If you are keen… Sincerely keen, your spouse is around the corner.

    This happens when you stop looking for the “Saint” in a faraway land.

    Don’t always think the person faraway is better than the person nearer.

    Proximity only breed contempt.

    But with better understanding, you create a leveling ground with better perspective of your neighbors.

    For the fact you have neighbours with known deficiency doesn’t mean he or she isn’t your spouse.

    Even the Harlot may turn out God’s divine choice. Maybe and maybe not.😀

    That angel or saint faraway may be Satan’s kin. Maybe or maybe not.👿

    Here I’m not saying don’t marry someone faraway. I’m only talking about perspective shift.

    The Bible says fools go to the end of the earth to seek for wisdom…

    Come to think of it? If you cannot find a good person around you, don’t you think it will be difficult to cohabit with a stranger whose character you don’t know.

    I’m also not telling you to go outrightly for a Harlot in the brothel, I’m only using it as a parable.

    Many of us see the people around us as unfit for marriage.

    We think those out there are better.

    Remember, we all cover our nakedness with clothing.

    *Who Do I Marry, The Harlot or the Saint?

    God bless you. We will continue here possibly tomorrow.

  • Lesson for Relationship

    LESSON FOR RELATIONSHIP

    Sometimes ago, my family was going outing, we got to a vehicle but the driver was carried away in pursuit of two other passengers. I was calling but he was in hot pursuit of wrong passengers.

    Then we turned to somebody who without struggling got us in. The first transporter came without achieving the goal. The people he went after were not going his way. The second driver was happy, without sweating he got us in and we drove off. While the first driver came back empty handed.

    Don’t go after the wrong relationship.
    This is life playing out before us:

    A guy has a lady around him who is interested in him. Instead of starting out with her he ignores her and go after another lady. The other lady he is running after is not interested in him. After a couple of years she gets married to her love. The guy comes back jaded and empty handed.

    He comes back to the lady he ought to start off with earlier. Then he realizes that she too had moved on. This is how some guys and ladies become old bachelor’s and spinsters.

    God doesn’t make getting a spouse a mountain to climb. When we need a spouse, he brings one to us. But we often fail to recognize him or her. Carelessly we go after lies.

    Learn from the Almighty himself, he doesn’t use the high and mighty. Instead, he uses the available and turn them into treasure. You don’t marry somebody who you like, you marry somebody who’s available, that loves you and cherishes you. Don’t go after someone who will merely tolerate you.

    In relationship, no side is doing the other partner a favour, it is a mutual concession.
    Who is at the bus stop of your life, that respects your dreams and purposes? He or she may be the person you failed to recognize.

    There’s treasure everywhere; only if we have a discerning heart to see.

    Prayer: Lord, give us the discerning heart to see clearly.

     

  • LOVE TONIC 18

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    How about the love during courtship? It is a kind of first fruit.

    Many times, there is often a short season of little supply between the first fruits and the bumper harvest. So relationship may experience that season of short supply of love. Be patient with your spouse, soon the love will blossom again and you will harvest overwhelming love juice. Don’t discard the relationship after taking the first fruit. Within that relationship is truckload of beautiful things if you will wait further.

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  • LOVE TONIC 17

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    What you want from your partner is often begun in the form of seed planted by you. If you want trust, you too begin to sow the seed of trust. If you want hate, plant hate. It doesn’t matter what has transpired before now; begin to sow seed according to your expectation.

    Remember seeds don’t bring forth overnight, it takes time and efforts. Harvest has its season after intense labour. This is truer in relationship. Great relationship takes time to bring the best out of it.

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  • LOVE TONIC 16

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    You cannot treat your spouse like a scum and expect a royal welcome back home. Remember: As a man lay his bed he sleeps on it. The Golden Rule hasn’t failed: Do unto others as you would expect them do to you. This is especially true of marriage and relationship.

    If you think you can plant corn and harvest yam from it, then do as you like in your relationship. The garden over there is greener because somebody is tending and nurturing it.

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  • LOVE TONIC 15

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    Don’t start a relationship on deceit. Deceits only end up breeding hatred and distrust. When you deceive somebody into your loving you, you are going to start a stressful relationship that would require lies to keep. How long can you go with lie?

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  • LOVE TONIC 14

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    Don’t beg for a relationship into being; else the relationship may end up like a bird flying on one wing. This is why many relationships are kept alive by only one of the spouses instead of making it a joint project.

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