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Category: LOVE & RELATIONSHIP

  • What Love Experts Don’t Tell You

    GUARANTEE FOR A BLISSFUL RELATIONSHIP

    Let’s discuss the following topic: “What is the guarantee for a blissful relationship?”

    When it comes to guaranteeing a blissful marriage, nothing external can provide an absolute assurance:

    Money,
    Food,
    Comfort,
    Wealth,
    Fame.

    Even those who possess material wealth, abundant food, or widespread fame can face marital challenges and difficulties. Despite their seemingly perfect lives, many individuals with tremendous wealth or fame have experienced the breakdown of their homes.

    As humans, no matter how cautious, guarded, or guided we are, there will come a point where trust, communication, respect, forgiveness, and other important aspects of a relationship might falter.

    If we build our idea of marital bliss solely on these foundations, we are setting ourselves up for significant troubles in the future. The devil will subtly alter our expectations and standards for bliss, causing strain and discord.

    Some marriages may appear stable until one person breaches the trust that was previously established. Conversely, some couples have successfully overcome trust issues in the past.

    We must remember that marriage is a union between two imperfect individuals. Knowing our imperfections, why do we place our expectations of bliss on the fickleness of our own perfection? This is not advocating for a path of complacency or mediocrity but intended to help preserve and strengthen marriages.

    When we hold high expectations for our spouses, we may encounter surprises and disappointments. It is an illusion to believe that external factors or someone else can provide us with enduring bliss. Many marriages face problems when such expectations, particularly related to money or wealth, are not met by the partner.

    It is crucial to adopt the mindset that true bliss begins with accepting and appreciating what we have, making a conscious decision to live with it, and making the best of our circumstances. The journey to marital bliss has been mistakenly portrayed as requiring equal participation from both partners. This flawed concept of marital bliss is why many couples find themselves in irredeemable quagmires.

    In reality, a blissful marriage can start with one person, with the flow gradually catching up to the other. If we wait for our partners to match our level of perfection or meet our every expectation, we will inevitably be disappointed and may lose the vibrancy and color in our marriage.

    According to the biblical perspective on marriage:

    Marriage is intended for two individuals to watch out for and support each other, as mentioned in Ecclesiastes 4:9-12:

    “Two are better than one because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up. Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken.”

    When one person falls, the other lifts them up. Knowing that we have a supportive partner is the pathway to bliss. However, it becomes problematic when a person’s bliss depends solely on their partner’s set standards. When these standards are compromised, the love between them also diminishes.

    True love acts as a North Star—unchanging despite circumstances and unaffected by the philosophies of the world. When our love becomes a constant guiding force, like a North Star, we enter into a state of bliss.

    Here’s another perspective:

    In a marriage, two individuals can experience different levels of bliss. While one person may be content and joyful, the other may be facing challenges and hardships. Each person resides in their own world, even within the context of marriage.

    This is why it is essential not to gauge our marital bliss solely on our spouse’s count

  • The Circumstance Doesn’t Define Your Relationship

    Relationship 101

    Topic: The Circumstance Doesn’t Define Your Relationship

    Relationships are a crucial part of our lives and they play a significant role in shaping who we are. It is often said that circumstances do not make a person; instead, they reveal what kind of person we are. In most cases, we cannot change or alter the lifestyle of our partners to a large degree. However, who we are as individuals will determine whether we can cope with our partners or not.

    It is essential to note that successful relationships require resilience, patience, and commitment. It is not uncommon to encounter challenges in relationships. For instance, financial difficulties, infidelity, violence, among others, can put a strain on any relationship. However, how we handle these challenges will reveal who we are as individuals.

    One thing we can learn from successful relationships is that adversity can bring out the best in us. When we face challenges, we have the opportunity to demonstrate humility, temperance, love, and submission to our partners. Adversity in relationships can refine us and make us better versions of ourselves. Those who have gone through more challenges in their relationships often remain standing, while others crumble at the slightest hint of discomfort.

    It is crucial to keep our hearts guarded in relationships, as the Bible says, for from it come the issues of life. When we feel overwhelmed and feel like we cannot take it anymore, it is vital to lean on biblical injunctions and the guidance of the Holy Spirit. Breaking rank with our partners should only be considered as a last resort.

    It is worth noting that not all relationships will work out. However, as individuals, we can choose to exhibit virtues such as resilience, patience, and commitment, knowing that the Holy Spirit dwells in us. When we do our best in relationships, we can be confident that we have done everything in a way that God, angels, and humans would say we have done our best.

    In conclusion, our circumstances, whether of money, fame, wealth, or relationships, do not define us. We have the power to choose who we want to be, and we can turn out to be good or bad, depending on our choices. Successful relationships require commitment, resilience, patience, and a willingness to face challenges head-on. When we exhibit these virtues, we can build strong and lasting relationships that will shape us positively.

    WALE ADEWUMI

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  • Wisdom for a Successful Marriage

    Wisdom for Successful Marriage

    Marriage is a sacred institution that requires a great deal of wisdom and understanding to make it work. It is not enough to simply find someone you love and tie the knot, as there are many challenges that come with building a successful marriage.

    Failure to approach marriage with wisdom and understanding can turn it into a living hell.

    One common mistake that people make in their marriages is to blame their spouses for all their problems.

    In reality, the source of most marital problems lies within ourselves. It is our weaknesses in managing our emotions, particularly anger, that often lead to conflict in marriage.

    Instead of constantly pointing fingers at our spouse, we need to take responsibility for our own actions and work on improving ourselves.

    Another important factor in building a successful marriage is understanding the differences between men and women, as well as people from different backgrounds and temperaments.

    Failure to understand and appreciate these differences can lead to misunderstandings, conflicts, and ultimately the breakdown of the marriage.

    It is essential to take the time to get to know our partners well and to develop an appreciation for their unique strengths and weaknesses.

    Finally, it is important to adopt a mindset of mutual support and cooperation in marriage. Instead of always looking to our spouses to provide for us, we need to think about how we can contribute to the relationship.

    For example, if one partner is struggling to bring in enough income, the other partner can look for ways to augment their income.

    The 21st century offers numerous opportunities for people to earn unlimited income, but it requires a willingness to work hard and continuously improve oneself.

    In conclusion, building a successful marriage requires wisdom, understanding, and a willingness to take responsibility for our own actions. By working together, appreciating our differences, and adopting a mindset of mutual support, we can build a marriage that is both fulfilling and lasting.

    WALE ADEWUMI

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  • Discovering the Rich Benefits of Sex

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  • WHY MANY REMAINED AS SINGLE (UNMARRIED)

    God has created his schemes of how things should run here in our world.

    Contravening these will lead to utter frustration.

    I believe the reason why many of us are here is to learn so that we can move forward to build healthy relationships.

    We also realise that some find it very difficult to find a suitable partner.

    I’ll be glad if you are keen to follow to learn and adapt.

    Somebody said that one of the hardest things for many people is to unlearn.

    If you have been single (unmarried) for a very long time, you have to unlearn certain things and at the same time learn new tricks that will help you to begin a new course wherein many suitors will surround you. 😀

    And if you’re a man, you’ll have many ladies around to choose from. I want you to believe that it is possible.😀

    Let us pray:

    Heavenly Father, I pray for your children that they receive the power and strength to receive these words and at the same time receive the power to bring forth after the words.

    That they will be married very soon and with ease; especially those who are of marriageable age.

    In Jesus’ name.

    Let’s Begin:

    From Bible days, answers often come from unexpected means or ends. This makes me remember Naman the leper. Also David against Goliath, and the widow with the small jar of oil.

    Why I’m saying this is to help you prepare your mind that the answer often comes simplified.

    I’m going to present the solution to late marriage in a sentence and I want you to read that sentence over and over again. When it makes meaning or sense to you, you will no longer have a problem getting somebody to be married to.

    Don’t struggle with it, don’t argue with it. Just comply and you will see a miracle.

    The solution to Late Marriage

    Proverbs 18:24 KJV

    A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.

    In a sentence:

    If you want to be married you must be friendly.

    Before you start arguing with this thought ask the Holy Spirit to open your eyes.

    Remember, the scripture cannot be broken.

    We bow to the word of God, the word of God will not bow to us.

    Emphasis:

    Solution to Late Marriage

    Proverbs 18:24 KJV

    A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.

    In a sentence:

    If you want to be married you must be deeply friendly.

    Some of us will argue that we are friendly to everybody around us already.

    Remember, there’s a friend who is closer than a brother.

    You even point us to your church members, colleagues at work, family, acquaintances and regular friends.

    You too know that the relationship that leads to marriage is often deeper. Look at that same scripture in the book of proverbs 18:24 which says a man that has friends or that wants friends must show himself friendly. Then the next part of the scripture is what I want you to remember: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.

    If you want a relationship that leads to marriage you must nurture friendship to a higher depth.

    You can’t mind your business alone if you want a partner.

    You Ask Questions:

    Find some in these statements…

    I am a child of God and I am very good.

    I mind my business.

    I don’t hurt anyone and I don’t want anyone to hurt me.

    I just want to be me. I live for myself and I am for me. Everything I am doing it for me.

    I can take care of myself. I don’t want any liability.

    And so on…

    This is the answer…

    When everything revolves around you you might find it very difficult to have a working relationship. Even though you are a good Christian.

    Many good Christians are poor, sick, weak, and single.

    Christianity without adaptability to working principle cause many to think that God’s words are not true.

    Go beyond surface relationships and friendships go deeper, become sacrificial, and exceed the normal in terms of kindness, fairness, love and understanding.

    When such seeds are abundant within and around you they will attract suitors just as the nectar attracts the bee😀

    Let us go into the Bible one more time.

    In the book of Genesis chapter 24, we have the account of Abraham looking for a spouse for Isaac his son. He sent ahead Eleazar his servant to go forth and get him a lady from Mesopotamia.

    On the way, the young man prayed: Lord, give me a woman who is caring and loving.

    Rebecca was an answer to his prayer. In that chapter, we saw a woman that went the extra mile to make life conducive for a stranger. Simply, Rebecca showed herself as friendly and caring.

    From the onset, she showed forth the attributes of a good wife.

    Because of her friendly disposition, it wasn’t difficult for Eleazar to identify her and she became Isaac’s wife.

    My Wife

    My wife didn’t just happen to be my wife.

    There were many ladies around me as regular friends. But when she came she stood out.

    I like a friendly and caring person. I like to be treated special.

    Note: when I met my wife she didn’t keep me special because she was looking for a husband. That was her nature. This she exemplified from the first day.

    Since I met her until today she is somebody that I can regard as one of the most sacrificing ladies in the world.

    Nobody will want to go for somebody who lives for himself or herself. Nobody wants a selfish partner. Nobody wants to marry somebody who lives within his or her shell.

    You might be a very quiet person that doesn’t stop you from being a very caring and friendly person.

    If you study Rebecca very well you will realise that she was a very quiet and shy person, yet she was friendly.

    Today make it a habit to build quality relationships; deep and purposeful and sacrificial relationships. Make it a lifestyle.

    At the same time, I’m not asking you to act it up, to pretend or to be under pressure.

    What I’m saying is that you nurture your friendship until your friendship leads to marriage:

    As the Bible said that there is a friend who is closer than a brother.

    What kind of friendship can be closer than a brother if not your spouse or partner? To achieve this, you have to start with deep level friendship.

    Finally:

    You cannot continue to live a solo life and expect marriage.

    You might be lucky just like a gambler but you can’t sustain that relationship without nurturing it. This is another reason why some complain that they do not have steady relationships.

    This is a discussion for another day.

    The new rule: nurture friendship just as the farmer nurtures plants to make a good harvest in due time.

    Nurture, build relationships… Change into this new habit.

    Thank you.

  • WORK WHILE YOU WAIT – RELATIONSHIP

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    WORK WHILE WAITING (Contribution by Brother Ajayi)

    Before we go deeply into this topic, I will to first of all define the term ‘WORK’.

    WORK can be defined as effort expended on getting a particular task done.

    So, that means if you already have the view of getting something done, then, you have to get working on it.

    And as we all know, or as we should know, Relationship and Love affairs needs proper working on both in the individual sense and in the union.

    What does WAITING signifies?

    WAITING simply signifies the patience, looking forward to and the space in-between to getting our very desired wish.

    Now, we as individuals should begin to realize this fact that before you can have a perfect union, perfect companionship or relationship… There are works that must be done in all areas of our lives.

    Some of those WORKS and how to get those WORKS done are what we are delving into now

    As an individual, both male and female, we must begin to realize all these things for a perfect relationship life and most of all marriage life to be assured.

    Below 👇 are the points to note:

    WORK on your Prayer life.

    Prayer is a vital thing that must be used in getting what is needed for us.

    It is a key that opens all mighty doors.

    Prayer helps an individual to be having deeper connections with his/her maker.

    If you don’t want to be lazy while married, now is the time for you to rekindle your prayer life and never get lazy.

    Your laziness today while still waiting for that perfect man may well affect you even when you eventually go into that union.

    Remember, a prayerless life is what the evil forces out there are ready to feast on.

    Pray without ceasing!

    Pray fervently!

    Pray day & night!

    Pray and get what you want through prayers and direct connection with your maker.

    WORK on your Business/Career life

    Under this number 2, most singles out there miss it a lot.

    Most of today’s Singles will rather rely on friends, fathers, mothers, boyfreinds, etc to get themselves going in terms of finances.

    Before a single guy or lady can categorically say he/she is ready to move into any serious thing, he must have a conviction of where he’s headed on life. Most importantly, his/her Career life.

    I will like us to observe some three (3) important things under this section.

    They are:
    a) Your Dreams

    b) Your Aspirations

    c) Your Skills.

    What are your Dreams?

    I recently came across a particular definition of Dreams, and it explains it like this:

    Dreams are series of events or pictures happening in one’s mind while sleeping.

    Hmm

    While sleeping.

    I want us to be in the Spirit with this teaching this evening and mark that very line… WHILE SLEEPING

    That means in your state of unconsciousness, in your state of weakness, in your state of not being fully empowered, you still have your dreams and goals with you.

    But the most important thing here is not just to dream alone, but to make sure your dreams are brought into reality.

    And all of these must be accomplished while still Single.

    So, you see,

    Being Single is when an individual must get at work for personal development more and more

    Another thing up there is

    Your Aspirations.

    What do you aspire to become or do?

    It is now that you’re still waiting that those aspirations must begin to come to pass

    And another is your SKILL

    What Skills do you have?

    What are your Skills?

    What have you been doing or accomplished so far with that Skills?

    Do you even have a Skill of your own?

    Are you ready to makeup time to learning the relevant Skills?

    Have you even realized your Godgiven Skills yet?

    Let’s move to the Number 3

    WORK on your Emotions

    As we all might have known, what drives most Single guy and lady out there is Emotions.

    Emotions are part of us, but it shouldn’t dictate or decide things for us.

    The mistakes most Singles are making or have made is because they allowed themselves to be driven by Emotions.

    If you are even going to be driven by Emotions, make sure it is on the positive side.

    Never allow your Emotions drag you down.

    Most Singles out there will say:

    All my friends are getting married and I am still single… My Brother & Sister, that is Emotions trying to drive you and it may make you make some rash decisions that may negatively affect your life till the end of time.

    Work on your Emotions and make the best use of it.

    Always remain Positive at all time!

    Never feel bad for what you’ve not achieved or received in life but instead, pursue that which is needed the right way.

    CONSISTENTLY WORK ON YOUR HEALTH

    Do not pursue the affairs of this life and totally neglect what your negative state of health is saying.

    Make sure you are lively and in all areas of your life including your state of health.

    Are you healthy MENTALLY?

    PHYSICALLY?

    PSYCHOLOGICALLY?

    SPIRITUALLY?

    All of those things must never be neglected.

    As much as you feed yourself with the needed nutrients for the body, you must always do the same if not more for your Spiritual health.

    Make sure you Mental state is right at all times.

    Read books that will improve your decision making.

    Go into friendships, groups, organisations that will improve your mental state and your physical well-being, not the one that will drain life completely out of you.

    WORK on your Relationships

    It is of a surety that the mistakes most of us are making in life is simply a replica of the kinds of relationship we are into.

    A popular saying:

    Show me your friend and I will tell you who you are.

    Who are your friends?

    What kind of relationship/friendship do you keep?

    Hope you’re not into any toxic relationship that will hamper your destiny?

    Now is the time to work on that too and make the right decisions.

    WORK on your Sex life.

    It is in our state of being Single that we all must completely work on our sex life.

    Do you fornicate while still single?
    It may affect your marriage life.

    Do you even have the needed sexual discipline towards a perfect union?

    Hope it’s not that you as a guy always run after everything under the skirt?

    Hope it’s not that you as a lady is selling away your body and future with just a token and sweet words?

    NOTE: The way you would like your sexual life to be when you’re married must be seen in you while still single.

    So please, work on your sexual discipline.

    Also, make sure you keep your body and mind pure from all immoralities.

    Know this fact that all affairs of life starts right from the heart. ❤️

    So, keep your heart pure and you will achieve this.

    However, if you need help on any dysfunction that may be somewhere around your body or life, please pray for God’s restoration and also, seek medical help.

    Finally my brethren, be the person you would like to have for a life partner.

    Work on your self first in all things and also position yourself aright and the right person will come your way.

    Be the person you want to have!

    NO ONE IS GOING TO COMPLETE YOU.

    You can only have someone to complement you, not complete you.

    You are you.

    No one is entitled to make you complete

    Make yourself complete first and do all your personal works and development on yourself… Then, everything will begin to fall into place for you.

    Remember, it takes just the right decision for us to have the best Union.

    And it starts with the level of Work we all put in into achieving that.

    Thanks so much for your time here.

    It’s been a pleasure sharing this wonderful time with you all, I am Bro Ajayi

    Shalom!

  • WHEN PEN WEEP BY THE RIVER OF LOVE (OSINACHI)

    An Ode to the murder of Osinachi.

    The pen wrote with tears on the day people were afraid to go into the river to bathe.

    The trouble began. The princess went to the river of love to wash. As she dipped down into the river for a bath she was swept off her feet: the beast of the river mauled her. The princess died.

    Princess Osinachi died.

    Days count on days, infections began to grow within the village: scary news of all kinds. Everyone oozes with a repugnant odour like a three-year-old he-goat. The people were scared and they refused to go to the river to wash.

    The death of the princess breeds other calamities. Epidemic looms like a deadly vampire stalking everywhere beyond the river beast.

    Then they began to fall sick, one by one.

    The king knew there was a bigger problem than the death of the princess Osinachi if the people will refuse to go to the river for fear of dying.

    Else they will die one by one away from the river of love because of the beast by the river.

    The king envisaged more calamity ahead. He called the people and charged them with courage:

    The fact that somebody died while swimming will not stop the rest of the world from swimming. We will keep swimming to retain the health of the world.

    Even though the princess died in the river of love we will continue to befriend the river. All we need do is to muster the courage to kill the beast of the river. Water is our life.

    Life is a risk, we will embrace the risk and we will live. Let’s match on, we are a people married to the river.

    Let us remain married to the river of love.

    Though the river swept one away, this doesn’t make the water so bad. An accident on one soul doesn’t stop all men on a noble voyage.

    Osinachi’s death at the river of love is a lesson for all; a landmark that cannot be washed off the sand of time. A lesson for all time.

    Osinachi

    WALE ADEWUMI

  • SEX AS TOOL FOR HOLDING A RELATIONSHIP

     

    FINDING LOVE SERIES CONTINUE

    *Sex as a tool for holding a relationship

    This topic must be emphasized and read over and over again.

    It’s likely going to be your saving grace to locating and get him and sustaining a relationship.

    This is your number one power for holding a relationship through to the stage of marriage.

    When you observed relationship and Marriage affairs you will discover that the beautiful, the ugly, the rich, the poor and people of diverse characteristics are married. Which shows that there is no limitation or imposition why you cannot get a marriage partner.

    Forget beauty and forget charm.

    What is most important in getting a relationship and then taking it to the stage of being married is positive use of the power of sex.

    Yours sincerely, it doesn’t matter whether you sleep in church from morning to night. Correct use of your sexual apparatus will ultimately determine greatly whether you will get married in good time or not.

    Once you have created the attraction the next thing is to use your sexual power to get the man or woman into marriage.

    Most relationship starts with external attractions like education, beauty, connection, charms or charisma or whatever.

    If you follow this path to the end you will be devoured and thrown out like a used menstrual clothing.

    May you not start a life of frustration from your youthful age.

    Abuse of the power of sexuality is one of the reason why people lose their colour and develop several other negative habits that leads to depression and regrets.

    *Case Studies*

    In the Bible we have a brother and sister called Amnon and Tamah.

    Amnon had a kind of sexual attraction to Tamar. He found his way to her and raped her. Immediately he had his way there was a strong intense hatred between the two of them.

    This led to generational sorrow. Amnon was killed by Absalom for this wicked act of Amnon. Tamar remain sorrowful the rest of her life.

    *How it relates:*

    When you introduce sex into your relationship too early, no matter how beautiful you are or physically endowed, you are likely setting yourself for unimaginable depth of repulsiveness from the person who once loved you.

    Sometimes you find it difficult to explain why the hatred.

    The simple reason is that you allowed him or her to have carnal knowledge of you too early.

    *Sex is Your Opportunity for Early Marriage*

    Sex when not satisfied intoxicate like wine or drug. It’s stronger than opium, why do you think a 70years will rape a 9years old?

    At that moment the more depraved of the two has lost all senses.

    The seeker of love will want to do all he can to have sex with the object of his love.

    The onus lies on the person with stronger reason. You make up your mind that no matter what you will not open up.

    Always let it be ingrained in your heart what you really want:

    *FINDING LOVE SERIES CONTINUE*.

    When marriage is uppermost in your heart you will close that door and hold on until the intoxication leads your partner to take you to the altar, or to the marriage registry, or to pay your dowry.

    Then you can open up the honey pot without restrictions as you are transported to the heavenly rendezvous of holy lovemaking.

    Then, after the marriage, it becomes a permanent opened door that no one can close😀

    Often, a man will leave a very pretty and beautiful woman who has no restraint to marry a woman who is ugly and less educated or endowed because the latter has some restraint.

    It is not often true that virgins and those who are not promiscous have better character but many times Men go for those who could withstand the pressure.

    If you’re a woman who is beautiful ugly or whatever know that by virtue of your being as a woman, somebody will be attracted to you. When such a person comes around be careful what kind of game you are playing together: Sexual game or game that leads to marriage?

    *Final example*

    A father recently told me about his daughter:

    A young guy of about her age came to her and desire of her a relationship.

    Every now and then this guy will always want a way of luring her to sex. She refused every time.

    In his utter frustration he left this lady for a while. He thought she will beg him to come do😀

    Many ladies have fallen for such antics of men. “Let me have sex with you and I will marry you.” Ladies that falls for such lies are befuddle of judgement and are not wise.

    After sex before marriage, the opportunity for marriage becomes slimmer by the day.

    Some of you are younger. You think this is old school.😀

    Borrow sense, don’t let the next Generation learn from you because you were experimenting with sex with every Dick and Harry.

    Following the story to the end: Where the guy found out that his game couldn’t change her mind he came back this time serious for a relationship that leads to marriage.

    Today they are happily married living together in Ilorin, Nigeria

    *FINALLY*

    In life you can’t eat your cake and have it back. If you decide to regurgitate the cake, it will be smelly.

    Yes, some still got married but when sex comes in before marriage it creates some thorns and distrust. It pays you to hold on until after marriage.

    When you are purposeful and you know what you want in a relationship and you made sex is secondary factor you will find that you will realise that getting married is as simple as ABC… Towards 2022.

    Thank you.

     

  • DEALING WITH THE STRONGHOLDS

    Topic: Dealing With the Stronghold

    Many times we don’t agree with certain things because they are not exactly the way we want to see them.

    We have the way we think. Our imaginations are different, and so we tend to ditch everything that do not agree with our mental framework.

    This same reason is why some have not found relationships that can work.

    When we are able to see from other people’s perspective and views it becomes very easy for us to adapt, compromise, assimilate or cohabit with others.

    **** Compromise here doesn’t mean tender towards sinfulness but ability to walk out of her own very rigid framework and accept other people into our own world view.

     

    *The Answer

    The greatest stronghold pummeling and destroying The Good Life with an individual isn’t the devil, sin or witchcraft but the way we think.

    As a man think so is he.

    Your mental framework tells a lot about the results you are getting presently. If you want to change the result change the way you think

    *When the enemy want to get to a man he first go into his mental framework and create some certain ideological distortion or way of thinking.

    The individual will begin to think in some negative self afflicting ways that destroys the path to abundant life.

    The worst part is that this person would think he’s doing the right thing until it becomes too late or very late.

    On this platform I’m not going to deceive anybody and I’m not sugarcoating anything: the reason is that I want you to get a very good result in the year coming ahead.

     

    *Why We Suffer For So Long

    When you want to build a large following and herd keep deceiving them.

    Tell them what they want to hear.

    One of such is that the fault of their shortcomings, their pains and sufferings is due to some outward forces.

    This is why when you go to many prayer mountains they don’t talk about your own failure or sin or ineptitude or shortcoming.

    If they tell you that you have a role to play in your miracles they will not become your hero and you will not likely go back to the prayer mountain and you will not likely give them large donation or support.

    They tell you the witch in your village are the one after your life. If you don’t agree with the witches and their impact or import in your mental arena they will not rule over you not for long.

    The Bible says casting down imaginations that is contrary to the word of God in your life.

    In every miracle you have a role to play.

    2 Corinthians 10:5 KJV
    *Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;*

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    *Changing the program

    1. The first thing you need to agree like the prodigal son is to know that things are not going the right way. In Yoruba adage it says the day the mad man knows he is mad then his healing begins.

    Zig Ziglar says that if you keep doing things the wrong way and expect a change; that this is a mark of a twisted mind.

    2. The second thing to do is to begin to pray asking God to reveal to you the twisted thought within you that could block the path to a good relationship… To show you the wrong imaginations.

    The wrong way of thinking is the number 1 enemy to you getting the right spouse.

    3. As you pray receive the humility to begin to search your heart to know the area where you have a perverted thinking about who to marry or how to work in the new level of love and awakening within you.

    4. Receiving the humility to accept the changes that you need in your mental framework and your thinking.

    *Once you receive a renewed mind after God’s own heart it becomes easy as ABC to find love. But when the enemy the devil twist the mind even the beloved of the LORD whom he has assigned to you will be miles away even when such person is beside you.*

     

    *PRAYER

    PRAY THAT THE LORD WILL CREATE WITH YOU A NEW HEART AND RENEW HIS SPIRIT WITHIN YOU. BY SO DOING THAT YOU MAY BE ABLE TO FIND LOVE THE SAME WAY REBECCA AND ISAAC WERE CONNECTED WITHOUT HASSLE OR TROUBLE IN JESUS NAME.

    We will continue on the topic… Dealing With the Stronghold

  • YOUR DRESSING AND ITS ATTRACTION

    *YOUR DRESSING AND ITS ATTRACTION

    Yesterday we talked about need for the cultivation of relationship or friendship. If you build healthy friendship around you it becomes easy for you to find God’s will but if you drive anybody away from you it becomes more difficult. This is simple wisdom.

    Today we’ll be talking about your dress sense.

    Some years ago about 40 years ago report I had a distant cousin.

    This was the era of the Scripture Union called SU. She gave her life to Christ very early and then being a Scripture Union member most of the members don’t believe in good dressing so she dress simply.

    Recently I saw her on WhatsApp she dressed beautifully and elegantly. I showed the picture to my wife and I told her if my cousin has been dressing like this since we were young she would probably by now have a husband. At about 53 or thereabout she’s yet to have a husband.

    In the book of first Samuel chapter 16 we had it of Prophet Samuel making mistake in his choice of a king for Israel because he was looking at the outward until God helped him out. Man is created to make his choices from externalities.

    You like it or not I want you to see God as the Father of packaging. When he created man he placed the shit: urine and excrements and dirt deep within. Then he covered man with flesh then a beautiful skin.

    This infer that you who was created in the image of God ought not to showcase tattered life, dirt and odour.

    Always remember that good dressing doesn’t hot. The best time to use the best quotes when you are young in your youthful stage. This doesn’t make you susceptible to immorality. Immorality is a thing of the heart.

    Do you know that we have village girl in dirty clothes who are more prone to immorality?

     

    *Another Extreme

    Nonetheless, we have to avoid being an extremist when it comes to dressing. This is especially to ladies.

    When you dress with the ulterior motives to create lust around you, it often finally boomerang because it attracts to you the wrong kinds of people.

    If you’re not careful you will fall into a wrong file. One dangerous aspect of it is that this person may not take you to serious all your life because he will always remember how he met you.

    I remember some years ago when some ladies mistakenly had pregnancy for some men. Suddenly they realise those men love to have sex with them but were not ready to make them their wives.

    Your dressing sends a kind of message of who you are. You can never see a king or those of the Royal class dress indecently.

    As you look for somebody to spend the rest of your life with, create the right kind of message around you in terms of the kind of clothes you wear.

    *A Lesson From Corporate Branding

    Corporate organisations spend large sums of money on branding and advertisement. They understand their branding, packaging and promotion are basis for their growth and acceptability.

    You too must commit good sum of money to your personal brand and packaging. I’m talking about spending good money on yourself, to look very good and attractive in the year 2022 and beyond if you’re a young person seeking to attract a good relationship.*

    You don’t need special prayer for this, to know whether this is the right thing to do or not.

    In some instances always trust the brain that God gave to you. God gave you brain so that you can allow him to rest in taking some commonsensical decision. God bless you.