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  • Wisdom for a Successful Marriage

    Wisdom for Successful Marriage

    Marriage is a sacred institution that requires a great deal of wisdom and understanding to make it work. It is not enough to simply find someone you love and tie the knot, as there are many challenges that come with building a successful marriage.

    Failure to approach marriage with wisdom and understanding can turn it into a living hell.

    One common mistake that people make in their marriages is to blame their spouses for all their problems.

    In reality, the source of most marital problems lies within ourselves. It is our weaknesses in managing our emotions, particularly anger, that often lead to conflict in marriage.

    Instead of constantly pointing fingers at our spouse, we need to take responsibility for our own actions and work on improving ourselves.

    Another important factor in building a successful marriage is understanding the differences between men and women, as well as people from different backgrounds and temperaments.

    Failure to understand and appreciate these differences can lead to misunderstandings, conflicts, and ultimately the breakdown of the marriage.

    It is essential to take the time to get to know our partners well and to develop an appreciation for their unique strengths and weaknesses.

    Finally, it is important to adopt a mindset of mutual support and cooperation in marriage. Instead of always looking to our spouses to provide for us, we need to think about how we can contribute to the relationship.

    For example, if one partner is struggling to bring in enough income, the other partner can look for ways to augment their income.

    The 21st century offers numerous opportunities for people to earn unlimited income, but it requires a willingness to work hard and continuously improve oneself.

    In conclusion, building a successful marriage requires wisdom, understanding, and a willingness to take responsibility for our own actions. By working together, appreciating our differences, and adopting a mindset of mutual support, we can build a marriage that is both fulfilling and lasting.

    WALE ADEWUMI

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  • THE POWER OF LOVE

    THE POWER OF LOVE

    The secret of bliss in marriage isn’t:

    Money
    Education
    Career
    Exposure
    Beauty
    Fame or any of such.

    The secret of a blissful relationship is in giving.

    This conversely means without giving there’s no love.

    John 3:16 KJV
    For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.

    *God’s love is demonstrated in giving

    What you’re ready to sacrifice in that relationship is dependent on how much love you have for your spouse and home.

    *Giving isn’t just about money.

    If you truly love, you’ll give up some characters that stands between the peace of your home.

    Love condescends, it gives up its *rights* in order to make things work.

    1 Corinthians 13:4-7 KJV
    Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, [5] Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; [6] Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; [7] Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.

    True love doesn’t withhold due benevolence.

    If you cannot share what you have with your spouse, you can’t truly say you’re in love.

    Giving is beyond material things… How about affection, sex, support, emotion, etc?

    *In the final analysis, the one who truly love gives first.*

    Where true love is exhibited, you don’t wait to receive before you give.

    Jesus gave himself while we are yet sinners.

    If we belong to Christ we will seek to out give in our relationship.

    If you’ve been on this platform for more than 2 years… The repeated thought is that you should tend to be ahead of your spouse in well doings.

    By this you’re counted as a believer and a child of God.

    When your reaction in marriage is still based on how your spouse act you’re still in the elementary class of marriage.

    *If you really want to reap the full dividend of marriage, you’re going to sow into it in season and out of season. When it’s convenient and when it’s not.*

    In the long run, it’s who you truly are that marriage reflect back. You’re not going to hold back because of your spouse inability to reciprocate.

    Everybody gives what he or she has.

    Be committed to giving in your relationship than ever before… If you’re committed to this you would have evolve into a more spiritual being.

    When you’re committed to giving unreservedly, you would have mount up power over your home…

    The more you give to that marriage the more divine you become. Nobody mess up with a divine person.

    So when you give much into that relationship, you’re not really helping your spouse, you’re building up control and ownership over that marriage.

    By withholding, you are weakening your hold in that home.

    When Jesus gave himself at Calvary, by his giving he became Lord and owner of the whole world of men.

    *Giving is the secret of power in marriage…*

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    WALE ADEWUMI

     

     

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  • THE SECRET OF MAKING A GOOD CHOICE

    *THE SECRET OF MAKING A GOOD CHOICE*

    Good evening brethren. I’ll share with our youths a very pertinent topic that will significantly determine whether you’ll have a wonderful marriage or not.

    I hope many of you will humble yourself to consider the discussion.

    I’m going to deal with the issue of feelings and an inner knowing/acknowledgement/word.

    *I realize why most relationship fumble this days: They fail because they are built on feelings*

    Feelings change and are unstable elements to rely upon while deciding a serious issue as marriage.

    _Never build your relationship on feelings_

    Getting married require you having a sound mind and being in charge of your rein.

    I was discussing with a young man recently about who to marry. He said I have no feelings towards a lady.

    Possibly the Lady isn’t meant for him.

    I told him something that surprised him:

    *I told him: “I have no feelings for my wife when I met her.”*

    My wife wasn’t the most beautiful lady in my circle.

    My wife wasn’t the best dressed.

    My wife wasn’t the most righteous.

    *While looking for a wife, I wasn’t looking for the best woman. I was looking for my wife. Simple*

    What you go for is what you are likely going to get.

    If you’re looking for a sophisticated lady, you would most likely get her. But her sophistication may land you in trouble.

    Proverbs 17:1 KJV
    Better is a dry morsel, and quietness therewith, than an house full of sacrifices with strife.

    Proverbs 25:24 KJV
    It is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman and in a wide house.

    *Marriage is not a competition for the attraction of the rich, educated or famous spouse.*

    *It is about getting the bone of your bone and flesh of your flesh*

    So getting a great spouse is way beyond feelings.

    Getting your own spouse should be predominantly determined by what God is saying or has said.

    There’s a knowing deep within you when you meet a suitable partner.

    I know a great man of God who met his wife at a motor park.

    It takes an inner knowledge to have his senses tuned in.

    In Genesis 24:

    When Abraham need a wife for Isaac, we discovered Abraham didn’t use any physical yardstick than factors that are in congruency with earlier word of God to him… He knew where to marry and where not to marry.

    So he sent Eliezar to get a wife for his son *based on intrinsic specification*

    Rebekah also, though not having met Isaac followed.

    What happened? God had gone ahead to determine the relationship

    Rebekah was an answer to already spoken prayer:

    Genesis 24:42-46 KJV
    And I came this day unto the well, and said, O Lord God of my master Abraham, if now thou do prosper my way which I go: [43] Behold, I stand by the well of water; and it shall come to pass, that when the virgin cometh forth to draw water, and I say to her, Give me, I pray thee, a little water of thy pitcher to drink; [44] And she say to me, Both drink thou, and I will also draw for thy camels: let the same be the woman whom the Lord hath appointed out for my master’s son. [45] And before I had done speaking in mine heart, behold, Rebekah came forth with her pitcher on her shoulder; and she went down unto the well, and drew water : and I said unto her, Let me drink, I pray thee. [46] And she made haste, and let down her pitcher from her shoulder, and said, Drink, and I will give thy camels drink also: so I drank, and she made the camels drink also.

    Rebekah walked into prophecy.

    Looking at the relationship, it wasn’t set on feelings but word spoken ahead in prayer.

    In the case of Ruth and Boaz, it wasn’t based on love at first sight.

    Ruth could chose a younger male partner but she was prevailed upon by strict marital vow and process.

    Boaz a rich man also could look down on Ruth a peasant.

    Yet he also submitted to duty and responsibility as the near-kin to Mahlon and Chilion.

    Boaz married Ruth based on duty, responsibility, purpose and maturity.

    Maturity in choices is far beyond feelings.

    I never married based on feelings but based on sound decisions, one of such decisions are:

    Being a very responsible and dependable husband

    Responsibilities in marriage has nothing to do with feelings.

    Marriage built on feelings crack easily because immediately the feeling is gone they begin to have problem.

    Remember, the marriage vow is about *doings* not *feelings*

    Being nice to my wife has nothing to do with her actions or inactions. It has all to do with my vow and decisions.

    Marriage is kept year in year out by decisions and vows.

    And this decisions and vows are based on words you received within your heart.

    When I met my wife, I saw some unique virtues I desired in a woman.

    Then I heard again within me when I was beginning to relax action, go for her or you’ll stay long as a bachelor.

    I obeyed the inner promptings and the inner voice…

    I felt right about her. We got married and like many marriages we have some challenges but few yet I never had reason to secretly engage other ladies around.

    The reason: I had an inner agreement and witness to move into the relationship… Not feelings

    Remember, feelings is about physical agreement matching our expectations.

    True love is inner agreement matching divine expectations.

    When you match divine expectations your marriage is birth in heaven and hordes of hell cannot quench that relationship.

    When it’s true love it has nothing to do with height, complexion, wealth, fame, etc.

    You just know you love the person, nothing more and nothing less.

    *True love is never a bad market*

    God will always give you the best suitable for you if only you can wait upon him.

    I’m not saying you’ll marry a flawless person, but your spouse will understand you.

    I’m not saying you wouldn’t quarrel but after quarreling you’ll always remember where you started from.

    The Bible says: you’ll hear a voice saying, this is the way.

    A true relationship is built on an indelible deep knowing which determines the attraction in the first place. Without a knowing which should be of God, never start a relationship.

    Surely, when you follow God’s voice it will lead to a safe haven.

    *What’s God saying about that relationship is it built on the sandy soil of feelings or on the rock of God’s word?*

    You cannot help God based on your fickle standard. The heart of man is desperately evil, don’t fall for feelings.

    When the feeling is gone that guy or lady may become your nightmare or untameable monster in human clothing

    *Please, let God choose for you*

    Let us pray: Lord go ahead of me and choose for me. Lord, shatter every wrong choices I’ve made by the power of the Holy Spirit.

    Lord help me not cage my destiny by wrong partner.

    In Jesus name

  • FAMILY FINANCE – 2

    REAL LIFE STORY TO HELP FAMILIES IN FINANCES

    I’m happy coming your way.
    We believe this program meets you well.

    This topic is important and very relevant in this period of financial challenges globally. This period is crucial and requires dexterity in the handling of family finances. It affects us all one way or the other.

    Some family will go under due to covid-19 and its attending financial constraints. May we be among those lifted in Jesus name.

    REAL LIFE STORY 2

    I was there during the wedding and was given conspicuous position. The wedding was great and well attended with personalities and dignitaries from the area. It’s obvious this sister caught a good fish from the ocean of mankind. The guy was handsome, cool headed and delectable. It was obvious this sister will not suffer or have to bear regular nuances of lack among the regular.

    The dowry was an overflow of anointing.

    What a lucky sister!
    Iyan to ma yoo eeyan, ooju lati mo.
    Seeing is believing.

    True to the sight. The marriage was blissful. The man was up and doing satisfying his wife. She didn’t complain not for once.

    Then I received phone call recently: I’m no longer in his house. He fought me, beat me and drove me out of the house.

    Three years gone by. They had kid(s), the man made her his treasurer and open a beautiful shop for her. Some thought she used diabolical power to gain control of him. Their love was pure and true. 

    I asked her and she told me, his business was down and for this reason he came down on the shop as his hope. As the shop dwindles covid-19 came in and made matter worse.

    She was advised: Stop feeding him from the shop so that he can come back to his senses.
    The man began to struggle to get what to eat. Then stopped feeding or attending to her and the children. He feeds himself.

    The house was divided.

    Then she refused to open up to him sexually. Fire was on the mountain but she was oblivious of where all this was heading.

    The man became aggressive and drove her away and away from the shop. Then she calls.
    What lessons can we bring up and out of the story to help family finances?

    Lesson: Be careful those who give you advice.
    Let me give this instance: I’ve been in deep holes many time that it was my wife that bailed me out.

    Once in a while we fail and the wife or husband is important to stand by us then. Seriously, ignorance is to believe the man will always be well boxed up up financially. This utopian expectation has destroyed many homes.

    He is not God

    Sometimes he gets confuse like a small child.
    We can see it here that the one who fall is not spelt out whether the man or the woman
    One of my advice to her: Standing together will fast track healing of finances than fighting.

    In her case they are separated but work is ongoing to get them together again.
    When anyone fall, it’s the duty of the other to pull up the other up.

    Another advice I gave her: Peradventure the man isn’t ready to rise again once beaten, the woman should know that double barrel grace is coming on her.

    I told her, God seeing her faithfulness can multiply her ten times and beyond. Instead of fighting.

    This is why we are bringing this discussion together: Women should avoid the painful path of financial squabbles that may destroy the home: what if the man is paralyzed or dead? She should find a means of moving on with her life. I know this may be a hard reality for women who were always dependent on their spouses.

    Life goes on:

    This is a hard time everywhere. When the money becomes scarce during Covid-19 don’t put a global problem on your spouse’s head.
    It’s no ones fault.

    If there’s anything to do, this is the time to live in perfect understanding, coming together and praying together as husband and wife. Don’t make your spouse look stupid this time around.

    Even world presidents behave stupid and confuse than you this period of Covid-19. Your spouse and you have even tried that you are still alive not depressed. Even in my family, few days past we had to pray specially on our finances. This time and season will pass away. Let it not be reason to destroy your home and marriage and let not mere covid-19 separate your home