GUARANTEE FOR A BLISSFUL RELATIONSHIP
Let’s discuss the following topic: “What is the guarantee for a blissful relationship?”
When it comes to guaranteeing a blissful marriage, nothing external can provide an absolute assurance:
Money,
Food,
Comfort,
Wealth,
Fame.
Even those who possess material wealth, abundant food, or widespread fame can face marital challenges and difficulties. Despite their seemingly perfect lives, many individuals with tremendous wealth or fame have experienced the breakdown of their homes.
As humans, no matter how cautious, guarded, or guided we are, there will come a point where trust, communication, respect, forgiveness, and other important aspects of a relationship might falter.
If we build our idea of marital bliss solely on these foundations, we are setting ourselves up for significant troubles in the future. The devil will subtly alter our expectations and standards for bliss, causing strain and discord.
Some marriages may appear stable until one person breaches the trust that was previously established. Conversely, some couples have successfully overcome trust issues in the past.
We must remember that marriage is a union between two imperfect individuals. Knowing our imperfections, why do we place our expectations of bliss on the fickleness of our own perfection? This is not advocating for a path of complacency or mediocrity but intended to help preserve and strengthen marriages.
When we hold high expectations for our spouses, we may encounter surprises and disappointments. It is an illusion to believe that external factors or someone else can provide us with enduring bliss. Many marriages face problems when such expectations, particularly related to money or wealth, are not met by the partner.
It is crucial to adopt the mindset that true bliss begins with accepting and appreciating what we have, making a conscious decision to live with it, and making the best of our circumstances. The journey to marital bliss has been mistakenly portrayed as requiring equal participation from both partners. This flawed concept of marital bliss is why many couples find themselves in irredeemable quagmires.
In reality, a blissful marriage can start with one person, with the flow gradually catching up to the other. If we wait for our partners to match our level of perfection or meet our every expectation, we will inevitably be disappointed and may lose the vibrancy and color in our marriage.
According to the biblical perspective on marriage:
Marriage is intended for two individuals to watch out for and support each other, as mentioned in Ecclesiastes 4:9-12:
“Two are better than one because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up. Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken.”
When one person falls, the other lifts them up. Knowing that we have a supportive partner is the pathway to bliss. However, it becomes problematic when a person’s bliss depends solely on their partner’s set standards. When these standards are compromised, the love between them also diminishes.
True love acts as a North Star—unchanging despite circumstances and unaffected by the philosophies of the world. When our love becomes a constant guiding force, like a North Star, we enter into a state of bliss.
Here’s another perspective:
In a marriage, two individuals can experience different levels of bliss. While one person may be content and joyful, the other may be facing challenges and hardships. Each person resides in their own world, even within the context of marriage.
This is why it is essential not to gauge our marital bliss solely on our spouse’s count
